What I Learned About Grief: Understanding Grief, Loss, and The Healing Journey.

You cannot get rid of grief, my loves.

It doesn’t vanish, no matter how much we plead with it. Instead, it becomes a part of you… woven into the tapestry of your human experience.

Grief shifts and moves with your life. 

Yes, you can grow, heal, and transform. 

Yes, it’s powerful to uncover and shift the limiting beliefs grief may have planted in the unconscious. 

But grief itself doesn’t disappear. It blends into your existence, coloring the way you move through the world.

We try to dismiss it with distractions. We try to numb it with substances, scroll it away on social media, or bury it under new love and people. 

But grief does not leave. It lives within the fabric of life, patient, waiting. And sometimes, without warning, it shows up and hits you like a ton of bricks.

You go to therapy, you sit in ceremonies, you gather tools in hopes of banishing it. Yet grief is a shapeshifter. 

Through the years, it takes new forms. Until one day… you realize it has become a part of who you are.

And strangely… that’s when it turns beautiful. 

The tears…

they are a loving cleansing,

They wash over you gently,

allowing your sight of the world to become more vivid,

more tender,

more beautiful.

Grief becomes like a patchwork quilt… sewn from mismatched pieces of your story. Each square a memory, a love, a loss, stitched together into something whole. Its colors are not uniform, but they are yours. And this quilt, with all its complexity, covers you every night with warmth.

When you learn to live with grief instead of fighting it, it softens. It no longer feels like punishment… it feels like a kiss to your face, a reminder that you have loved deeply enough to grieve. 

You begin to create purposeful moments to sit with your grief, to admire the strange beauty of its colors, to bask in the depth of feeling it brings. And in that space, you begin to see it as a blessing. Because to feel so deeply, even in pain, is one of the greatest gifts of being alive.

So accept this grief as your own. Accept that it is part of you now. It is not here to harm you… it is here to love you, to comfort you, to remind you of the depth of your humanness.

Grief is not your enemy. It is your companion, your proof of love.

With Gratitude, 

Carolina Li Vigni

Www.Myspirtualpsychologycoach.com

A Gentle Note

If you are moving through grief, know this: you don’t have to carry it alone. Sometimes, simply having a witness, someone to sit beside you as you navigate the weight and the beauty of it, makes all the difference.

That is the heart of my work. Not to erase your grief, but to help you weave it into your life with compassion, meaning, and even tenderness